WARNING: Random thoughts and possibly some stream of consciousness writing ahead! Typically when I sit down to write a blog, I have some sort of plan. I teach my students to pre-write; you have to have a plan! Well, today I don’t have a plan, just some thoughts. Here it goes…
First, I want to address my friend, Emily’s blog. She became aware of a website on which people can anonymously post anything they want, including insults about anyone. They can post the names of others, without having to post their own names. Wow. What guts it takes to sit at a computer bashing people, without attaching one’s own name to the post. Why would any person with a conscience participate in such a forum? Their lives must be rather pathetic if they fill their time by tearing others down. I have never liked people who constantly criticize others, and who cannot be happy when someone is successful. You know the type: She thinks she is really something since she got that job. She thinks she is so great since she lost weight. He thinks he is better than everyone since he got that promotion. How can they afford that big house? Blah, blah, blah.
Having been the topic of gossip in this town, I know it hurts. It is easy to say we don’t care what others think, but deep down, those comments sting. No one is perfect; we have all said or done things we aren’t particularly proud of, but gossips love to take those weaknesses and build elaborate stories. I cannot sit here and say that I have never participated in gossip; that isn’t true. What I can say is that I do my best to avoid it. I know in the past there were some pretty nasty stories about me floating around, and that people said they knew it was true. It wasn’t. Though it was a difficult time, I learned many lessons. Unless I have seen something myself, or have spoken with the subject of the gossip, I don’t believe much of anything. I try to look deeper, and know that there are always two sides to every story. And I know that it usually isn’t really any of my business. We are all curious, but spreading rumors, trashing others, and accepting gossip as gospel is wrong. Give others a chance. Everyone has a story; everyone has struggles; and everyone deserves your compassion.
Emily will learn that she has so many friends and supporters, and that those anonymous people who post negativity likely have very few friends. Who would want them as friends? It is hard to not get caught up in the ‘talk’; we want to defend ourselves. Recently, I have had someone telling our mutual friends a lie about something I said (she twisted my words to her benefit). While my instinct is to be sure to tell everyone it is simply not true, I don’t want to lower myself to that level. I would hope that those who know me know better, so I am taking the high road (and it’s hard!). Will I ever trust that individual again? Absolutely not. Okay, enough of that.
Fitness…I am barely running, and it is not going well. I began physical therapy this week. I have only had one session, so I can’t really expect to feel a difference, though it would have been nice. In an odd way, I rather enjoyed the therapy. Despite the bruises on my leg, I can’t wait to go back for more. As the therapist was assessing my knee issues, she could come up with no reason for my pain. Absolutely nothing hurts except running. I can do Zumba, Pilates, Yoga, jumping jacks, and box jumps. I just cannot run without pain. She pushed and prodded, and kept asking if it hurt. Nope. I believe she was puzzled.
The best thing about my visit was that the therapist told me to try running. She wants to see if the therapy is working. Always one to follow orders, I hit the track with our Biggest Loser team last night. We did ten stair laps, then took off to run or walk two miles, each at our own pace. My friend Breanne and I took off together. My knee began to hurt by the time I’d run a half lap. Crap. I went ahead and ran a lap, and then walked. We continued alternating walking and running, and my knee continued to hurt. By the time Gary, Addison, and I arrived home, it really hurt. I have this fear that running might no longer be in my future. I am fortunate (and keep reminding myself of this) that I can do everything else. I am still able to work out, and I can still teach my classes. I have taken this ‘opportunity’ to try new classes, and have found that I like Pilates. It is difficult, and I feel wimpy, but I will get stronger, and hopefully gain some balance. One bright spot last night was when Addison ran. We have been trying to get her interested in running for four years, and she is finally showing some interest. I bought her some new neon yellow running shoes yesterday, and she tried them out last night. She ran a mile at a 9:48 pace, which is excellent. She wants to try some races, and I desperately want to run with her.
I have rambled long enough. I will leave you with some things to think about today:
- Rather than bring others down, lift them up! Give at least three compliments today. I bet you will feel better!
- Don’t believe the gossip. And if you know it’s true, don’t judge. You don’t know their stories.
- Get active! If you focus on improving your own health, you won’t have time to worry about others’ lives.
- Likewise, if you feel good about yourself, you will want others to have that same feeling.
- DON’T EVER PARTICIPATE IN AN ANONYMOUS FORUM! If you have something important to say, put your name with it. Address the person directly rather than online. This goes for Facebook, too.
- Have an outstanding day!